First Topic: Simon Sinek- Why Good Leaders Make You Feel Good
If you don't know a man by the name Simon Sinek, you should check him out. I was first introduced to him while listening to
EntreLeadership podcast. Since then have watched his TED Talks on
www.TED.com and have found him very useful from a ministry stand point. Simon Sinek made waves with his "Start With Why" TED talk and since then he has written books and recorded videos that are more made for the business world but can be applied to church leadership. (I will be posting about "Start With Why" in the near future)
In his recent TED talk,
Click Here, Simon Sinek does a 12 minute speech titled "Why Good Leaders Make You Feel Safe." In the video, he brings up the idea how does soldiers get to the point where they are willing to give up their life and themselves for someone else. He tells a story of a captain that willingly put himself in danger to save a sergeant and injuries solders. Simon states, "In the military, they give medals to people that are willing to sacrifice themselves so that others may gain. In business, we give bonuses to be people that are willing to sacrifice others so that we may gain." He continues with the question "What makes them like that? Are they better people? Are they attracted to what the military means and thus ended up there?" He reasons it is the environment that effects these men and can make any man or woman just like these soldiers. They are surrounded by men and leaders that are willing to give up their life for each of them. They have developed a relationship of trust and corporation. So where does that come from?
Simon continues the thought by talking how humans where designed. In the world we are surrounded by danger, things trying to kill or hurt us. Eventually we became reliant on our social circle or village/tribe for survival. Their was a trust that in a community one could sleep because they trusted the person on watch would warn them if something happened.The world is filled with danger, people wanting to attack and hurt our opportunity of success. These are constants, meaning they don't change. They will always be there. However the thing that changes is the organization we are involved with. Today is the same. Simon says, "That is where leadership matters. It is the leader that sets the tone. When the leader makes the choice to put the safety and lives of the people inside the organization first, to sacrifice comforts and tangibles results so the people remain and feel save, remarkable things happen."
He then tells a story about a person who doesn't feel safe and doesn't trust their leaders. When they don't trust or feel safe, they then spend their time trying to defend themselves from others. This weakens an organization. When we feel safe and trust an organization we will apply our talents and abilities to face the dangers outside instead of inside.
Simon says that the reason we hate corporations are that most of the leaders care only for themselves and would rather sacrifice company well being or even the people in the organization for self preservation. He then bring us two companies that are counter to this idea. One has a do not fire policy. If you mess up or not doing well, they will coach you and train you till you succeed. The other was a manufacture company that lost one third of it business overnight. Instead of laying off many people the CEO of the company addressed the people saying, "It is better for all of us to suffer a little than anyone to suffer a lot." Moral went up instead of down. They implemented a company wide policy that saved all of their jobs but it hurt each of them a little, however people supported the decision. They trusted and cooperating with the organization and worked to make it better.
Simon then states, "Leadership is a choice, not a rank." Their are people in an organization that might be on top are not leaders, they might have authority, but they are not leaders. We do what they say because of their authority but we will not follow them. Likewise, there are people in an organization that are on the bottom that are leaders because they have chosen to look after the people to the right of them and to the left of them. This is what a leader is.
Simon concluded about a story of a Marine. As the tradition when food is served to the Marines, the officer ate late. Well on this one day when all the troops were served there was no more food left for this officer. After they left, his men gave their officer some of their food. "We call them leaders because they go first, We call them leaders because they take the risk before anyone else does. We call them leaders because they choose the sacrifice so that their people will feel safe and protected so that their people will gain. And when we do, the natural response is that our people will sacrifice for us. They will give us their blood, sweat, and tears to see their leaders vision to come to life. When we ask them, why would you do that, why would you give your blood, sweat, and tears to that person, they all say the same thing, they would have done it for me. Isn't that an organization we would all want to work in?"
My Refection:
As I watch this video, I was reminded on how this could be implemented in our churches of today. Businesses and churches have a few things in common. They deal with people, safety is required, and trust is required among many others items. The leader of the church really sets the tone for the church. Just like the CEO and the Officers in the stories Simon Sinek talked about, the leader needs to lead his people and set the example. If a leader is not willing to put his personal goals and self aside for the sake of his people, then his people will not feel safe and not trust him. The people will be more worried about themselves and protecting themselves then helping the organization to succeed. Jesus lived this model too. He lived his life in service to the people who he was bring up to lead once he was gone. He washed their feet, taught them, and loved them. They trusted him and felt safe.
The people that go to a church or more important the people that are like the workers of the church,(lay workers and paid workers) both need safe environment and trust. The main difference with churches and business is most of the workers in a church are volunteers so they don't respond well to people forcing them to do stuff due to positional power. So that make it even more important to work with them and to give them a place to succeed. If someone doesn't feel safe or trusted they either look for a different leader to serve or don't excel at their current ministry because like Simon said above, they will spend most of their time taking care of their own needs.
So what are some tangible results that a pastor may sacrifice his people for? Money and Fame are two that come to mind. Sometimes decisions that are made in church are to keep some tithes. While this sometimes seems necessary, I have seen it hurt many people. If doing something would effect the trust and the safety of the church, then it would be better not to do it. Now with fame, some pastors are only looking out for themselves. They will preach and do things where they get the credit. Sometimes it is better to pass the credit to your team or the people around you. If your team sees you taking credit for the things they do, they will lose trust in you. Also with fame, there is a huge temptation to do something so that it gets you more complements or attention from your piers. This decision and actions will not be the best for the church. When the dust settles, people will either not feel safe or not trust the pastor to make the right decision in the future.
When Simon was talking about danger, for churches the danger they face is from multiple places. False teaching, the devil, sin, "wolves", and many other things that would seek to tear someone away from their place in a community. If someone comes into a community and feel safe, or at least not fear the people they are around, they will grow and thrive. However, if they fear people around them and/or leadership, they send their time guarding themselves from attacks and possible look for another community to be apart of.
In the Bible, their is an idea that Jesus taught that we should all be servant leader. He demonstrated this teaching many times but the most prevalent example is when Jesus washed the feet of his disciples. What this showed the disciples when he did it was that he want them to know he might be their leader but at the same time he was leading and serving each of them at the same time. He then went to the cross and die. He gave and scarified of himself for them. We see this worked in teaching his disciples because each of them gave their blood, sweat, and tears just as Jesus gave his blood, sweat, and tears.
So what can we take away from this video.
1) As leaders, we need to be servant.
2) Leadership is a choose.
3) Healthy organization help the people feel safe and trust the leader.
4) People that can trust their leader will perform better and want to stay.
Till next time,
Benjamin Marc Grenier